Why transformation sucks, but doesn’t suck at the same time

I remember starting my 200 hour yoga training with an impressive amount of non-existing upper arm strength. Did I mention the 200 hours were spread out over just 4 weeks?

Imagine the amount of overstretching and pressure my biceps were under this month. There was this one moment during ‘posture study’ where I collapsed on the floor and yelled out ‘fuck!’. It felt as if I had overstretched myself and could not possibly move forward again.  

This mixture of emotion, physical pain and exhaustion is a cocktail we all are familiar with in different situations, when we find ourselves in the midst of transformation.

So let’s talk about transformation and it’s dualistic nature. Because the destructive side we all fear and resent is the same fertile ground constructive qualities grow from. And whether we aspire to become a beautiful phoenix or not, sometimes life forces us to rise from the ashes.

The comfort equation

The uncomfortable is one of the vital components to the equation that brings forth creative solutions, divine downloads and ‘ah-hah’ moments. The uncomfortable is the bright light that shines right into our eyes after being asleep, making us see more clearly, even though it still hurts.

It is the driving factor that makes us think about the opportunities we are not noticing, or even more accurate, we are not not willing to consider, because they don’t match our expectations of how we want growth to evolve.

I find we sometimes seem to forget the duality of timing as well. The duality of our 3D lives, where we are submissive to different universal laws like the law of karma – as time is not linear and the future has her fair share of influencing the present – and the law of coincidence at the same time.

Sometimes we need to let ourselves be guided outside of the comfort zone and outside of our own efforts to alter the course of the transformation we find ourselves in. Who knows who we are meant to meet along the way? Even if that ‘undesirable detour’ doesn’t match our expectations and doesn’t seem to contribute to where we want to go. Who knows what we will learn when we surrender into the uncomfortable and the trust that it will serve us.

Be smarter than your own conditioning

To support ourselves while burning down to fertile ashes during transformation, we need to be aware of our mind and beliefs that love to color our decision making, as they are designed to keep us save in the familiar territory (even if that is not making us happy!). They will steer our brain to pick up evidence that support their theories, marketing the comfort of staying where we are. Because knowing every detail of the familiar, will keep chances of survival higher than being happy.

But do we want to be uncomfortable in the comfort zone? Probably not. It takes a toll long term and we know it. So when the heat rises and the flames of transformation lick our toes, pay attention to your mindset and beliefs.

Are they helpful or harmful?

We need to pay more attention to celebrating our efforts and evolution, rather than dwelling on failures and the limitations we see. Gift yourself some guidance when this is a new pattern for you.

Be proud of taking inspired action on that what comes up for you. Acknowledge yourself for showing up out of vulnerability, for choosing to soften and trust. Love yourself for your ability to transform.

You’ve got this.

Celebrating my existing upper arm strenght 😉


2 Replies to “Why transformation sucks, but doesn’t suck at the same time”

  1. Dionne

    Zo raak lieve Roos, prachtig verwoord. Dit geeft weer een boel inspiratie en reflectie. Blij met jou en je wijze woorden! Keep up going, believe in your purpose and listen to your heart. You strong and wise woman!

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